Make him worry about losing you by following these powerful tips.
If your man is making it clear that he’s not worried about losing you, it can leave you feeling unappreciated or even taken for granted.
And this feeling can grow stronger… making you bitter, grumpy, and feeling unloved.
But don’t worry, because today we’re going to show you ways to make him worry about losing you, so you can be sure that if he doesn’t do something right now, he’s going to lose you to someone else.
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1. Be elusive about your plans
If you’re the type who constantly checks in with him before making plans, it might be time to switch things up a bit.
Instead of laying out every detail of your night out or downplaying it to seem less important, try keeping some of the details to yourself.
Let him wonder a bit about what you’re up to next time.
When you’re out with friends, there’s no need to constantly message him. It’s okay to have some space and not be in constant communication. You don’t have to completely ignore him, but keeping your messages short can leave room for his imagination to wander.
By not filling in all the gaps and sharing every little detail of your life, you’ll leave him curious about what you’re doing differently and why you’re keeping things a bit more mysterious.
2. Be willing to walk away
Just a friendly reminder: every day you spend in a relationship is a choice. Remember, you have the power to leave at any time.
For instance, if a man says he can’t commit or isn’t interested in a relationship, trying to change his mind is usually futile, especially if you go along with it.
This is a common mistake many women make in their quest for love.
It’s easy to fall into the trap of accepting a situation where a man clearly indicates he’s not willing to meet your needs, and you go along with it. By doing so, you inadvertently reinforce his decision not to commit.
Why would he change? He’s getting what he wants without having to put in any effort. He has no fear of losing you.
The solution? Simply say “no, thank you” to anything that doesn’t align with what you truly desire.
Interestingly, it’s only when you’re genuinely willing to walk away from a situation that doesn’t serve you that you’ll discover the truth about whether he’s willing to commit to you and a relationship.
If he’s not concerned about losing you, then he doesn’t deserve you. Remember, there are better things ahead. Trust that the right person is on their way.
3. Stop answering his text messages
Now, that doesn’t mean you should avoid messaging him altogether. In fact, it’s quite the opposite.
When you respond to his texts immediately, even if you genuinely want to chat, it signals that you’re always available, eagerly awaiting his response.
And let’s be real, that’s pretty darn unattractive.
You might be thinking, “But I don’t want to play games. I just want to be myself.” Well, here’s the truth…
The dating scene is a bit of a game, whether we like it or not. We’re constantly sending messages—some verbal, some not—to the person we’re interested in. And text messages? They’re just one part of it.
So, the next time he texts you, take a breather before replying. Go ahead, occupy yourself with something else.
When you’re free, then you can shoot him a message back.
One thing’s for sure: the longer you take to reply, the more he’ll be scratching his head, wondering what’s up.
The whole idea here is to show that you’re not overly clingy and that you’re up for a challenge. Trust me, a little mystery can go a long way in keeping things interesting.
4. Don’t say you feel “unappreciated”
It’s understandable to want to express your feelings when you’re upset or feeling unappreciated. However, letting him know you’re angry and upset might seem like a good idea, but it can actually make things worse.
Constantly airing your grievances can lead him to view you as needy and constantly complaining. And let’s face it, that’s a big turn-off for most guys.
Now, that doesn’t mean you should keep your feelings bottled up. Expressing yourself is important, but consider taking some time alone or with friends to process your emotions first.
Telling him you feel unappreciated and unloved can inadvertently make him feel responsible for your happiness, which isn’t fair or true. You’re the one in charge of your own life and emotions, and putting that burden on someone else is overwhelming.
5. Make Him worry about losing you by making new friends
It’s completely normal to feel comfortable in your relationship, especially as time goes on. You start to integrate into each other’s social circles, making their friends your friends and vice versa.
But what happens when one of you starts meeting new people that the other doesn’t know? How does that make you feel?
And imagine if it’s you who’s branching out, making new connections and exploring new avenues. How would your partner react?
Chances are, they might feel a twinge of jealousy or insecurity, fearing they might be losing you to other people. It’s natural for them to want to compete for your attention.
So, go ahead and expand your social horizons. Make new friends, join new activities, and engage with different communities. Whether it’s through online classes, volunteering, or attending social gatherings, embrace the opportunity to connect with others.
6. Make him work to get your attention
Don’t always be readily available to him. Instead, flip the script and focus on enriching your own life.
If he asks for space, honor his request while filling your days with engaging activities with friends or family.
Communicate subtly that you’re not always accessible by planning your schedule full. This reaffirms your worth and reminds him that he initially had to put in effort to catch your eye.
Now, he’ll need to put in that same effort to maintain your interest. It’s about striking that balance and ensuring that both of you continue to prioritize each other amidst the busyness of life.
7. Work on yourself
This tip might just be the cherry on top of the list.
It’s unfortunate that many women still feel incomplete without a man by their side. Our society plays a role in perpetuating this mindset.
When you focus on enriching your own life and pursuing your passions, you naturally become more attractive to those around you.
Let’s face it, not everyone has their act together. Many people use relationships as an escape from their own problems.
But imagine the allure of someone who’s independent, strong, and has their own life sorted out—man or woman.
Now, picture yourself embodying those qualities…
Grab a notebook and start jotting down your interests and aspirations. Take steps towards them, explore new avenues, and discover more about yourself along the way.
8. Stop being too available
This one should be a no-brainer, right? But surprisingly, many girls still fall into the trap of thinking that being overly nice, available, and always there for their man is cute.
But, girl, let’s set the record straight—it isn’t.
People tend to value things more when they’re rare and hard to come by. If you’re constantly at his beck and call, chances are he’ll start taking you for granted.
“Why worry? She’s always there for me anyway,” he might think.
But you want him to feel the opposite, don’t you? And what’s the opposite of always being available? Being unavailable.
Sure, it might be a bit challenging to shift your behavior at first, but trust me, it’s necessary.
Because only by doing so can you make him start to worry about losing you for real.
“Is she spending time with another guy? Does she still even like me?” These are the kinds of thoughts you want swirling around in his head.
It’s frustrating when a man takes you for granted, isn’t it?
So, make him wonder. Keep him guessing about where you are and what you’re up to.
9. Go out with your friends and have fun (without him)
In many relationships, it’s common to find ourselves hanging out with mutual friends rather than nurturing our own separate social circles.
As a couple, you’re already sharing so much. Leaving a little mystery can actually be beneficial.
You don’t have to share all your friends with him. In fact, having some friends who are unique to you can be a good thing. And if a few of them happen to be men, even better!
The goal here is to make him wonder about who you’re spending time with and what you’re up to.
This subtle move sends a clear message to your man: he better not take you for granted, and he should go out of his way to make you happy and show you appreciation.